The media often portray motherhood as a time of instant joy, deep attachment, and unconditional love. But for many new mothers, the emotions that surface in the weeks and months after giving birth are far more complicated. One of the most surprising and painful feelings some mothers experience is resentment toward their baby.
Why Postpartum Resentment Happens
Postpartum resentment can happen for many reasons, none of which reflect a failure on your part. In the postpartum period, your body undergoes intense hormonal changes while you adjust to a completely new and demanding role. Sleep deprivation, physical recovery from childbirth, breastfeeding difficulties, and the relentless demands of caring for a newborn can quickly lead to emotional exhaustion.
It is natural for feelings of resentment to arise when your needs for rest, personal space, emotional connection, and autonomy consistently go unmet. You may miss your old life, your independence, or your ability to do simple daily activities like sleeping and eating without constant interruption. You may feel trapped, overwhelmed, or invisible. Sometimes resentment is less about the baby and more about the isolation, exhaustion, or unrealized expectations that come with early motherhood.
You Should Not Feel Ashamed
Resentment signifies that you are overwhelmed, not that you are a bad parent. However, shame often compounds the problem. Many women believe they must keep struggling silently because so few parents talk openly about postpartum resentment, but this issue is far more common than people realize.
Recognizing and accepting these feelings as a natural response to extreme stress and unmet needs will alleviate your isolation and self-blame.
Finding Help at Postpartum Den
Postpartum Den understands that the postpartum period is not always happy or easy. We specialize in supporting mothers who grapple with complex, difficult emotions, including resentment. Our intensive outpatient program offers immediate, compassionate care tailored to the realities of early motherhood.
Here, you are free to speak your truth without fear of judgment. We help mothers process these painful feelings, understand their source, and develop practical strategies to rebuild emotional resilience. Babies up to 9 months old are welcome in our program, allowing you to stay connected with your child while getting the personalized attention you need.
Don’t carry the burden of resentment, guilt, or shame alone. Contact us to start healing, strengthen your bond with your baby, and reclaim your sense of self.
